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The other day I ran into a photographic project by Dina Goldstein titled “Fallen Princesses”  while reading my daily blog fodder.  Goldstein decided to place our beloved Disney Princesses in the real world, dealing with modern day issues such as: illness, addiction, self-image issues and war.  I think the final product is a thought provoking look at our obsession with fairy tale endings. Below are some of the photos from the series:

Cinder 3


Rapunzel  II


 What do you think of Goldstein’s interpretation? Do you relate to any of the “Fallen Princesses” in the series?


Click here to see the rest of the photographs in the  “Fallen Princesses” project.


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During our months of separation, it was very easy to focus on working my program. However as ML and I are working towards a partnership, I am finding it more difficult to establish what really falls in the realm of “my” recovery. For example, I find myself anticipating his triggers – avoiding certain situations that *I* assume will be triggering for him (i.e. the beach, parties, movies). Though this isn’t a blatant form of control, I am still holding myself responsible for identifying ML’s triggers – something that he needs to take responsibility for. Another area I am having trouble with is establishing my boundary around his active participation (which is a MUST for me) in a recovery program, without dictating what “active” participation entails. For instance, does working an active program consist of attending 2 or 3 meetings a week? Do you reach out to your sponsor once, twice or three times a week? Do you go to therapy every week or every other week? I don’t want to dictate these things, but I am not foolish in believing that he can be in recovery without them. It’s important that he work his programs, but the who, what, when, where and how’s are for him to decide.

I have been working my program long enough to know that I am powerless over my husband. However, I realize that if this relationship is to ever work, we will both need to maintain our stability in our own recovery programs. If one individual is wobbly in recovery, the relationship as a whole will be less likely to succeed. The best I can do is make sure that I am stable in recovery and pray that my husband is doing the same. A fellow S-Anoner said in our meeting that our relationship with our spouse can be best represented by a triangle shape, where God is at the top of the triangle, and where we are at opposite corners from our spouse. We both have our own separate paths to recovery; but the closer we get to God, the closer we grow together as a couple. As long as I keep relying on my HP and working my program, I can rest assured that his, mine and our recovery will be headed in the same direction – to closer a relationship with our Higher Power and ultimately, with each other.

Check out the Cirque Du Soleil – Couple Balancing Act. It’s truly magical! (**Warning: This clip can be potentially triggering for sex addicts and their partners**)

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I ran into this video today during my daily blog roll and it really brought a smile to my face (and a tear to my eyes) – I just had to share! Sometimes, I forget how wonderful love, weddings and all that gushy stuff can be. It’s not only about the big wedding day celebration, registries and the diamond ring.  It’s about finding that one person that truly loves ALL of you (even the dorky side) and keeps you laughing and dancing for years to come.  Enjoy! 

Enjoy the Weekend!!!

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Holy Peeps!

Last year, my coworker introduced me to the annual “Peeps Diorama Contest” held by the Washington Post. Yes, Peeps!  You know, the Easter marshmallow treat that comes in pastel colors? Though I do not possess a single creative bone in my body, I truly admire all things “artsy”, albeit dorky at times.  The entries in 2008 were fantastic, but the contest is getting more competitive each passing year. Some of the entries are just so damn clever! How do people come up with these things?!  Hopefully, you’ll get a chuckle (or two) out of some of this year‘s finalists.

 (Ok! Maybe not this one. It’s a bit too close to home for me.)

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